ARE YOU HURTING YOURSELF? ~ STAY JUICY!

•April 2, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Life goes by so quickly that it doesn’t make any sense to allow past pain to continue to harm you. The original experience was painful enough for one lifetime, wasn’t it? Yet each time you remember that past injury or hurtful experience, you are forcing yourself to re-experience the emotional pain that accompanied the experience all over again. Wasn’t once enough?

 

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Did you know that your body doesn’t know the difference between something happening to you right now and something you are simply remembering? Each time you remember the painful experience and feel the pain of that memory, your body experiences the chemical and cellular changes exactly as if you were living in that moment again. In a way, you’re being a bully to your body by repeatedly attacking its wellbeing. Threatening experiences create physically changes disrupting your homeostasis.

 

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Whenever your brain perceives some type of potential pain or danger, it activates your stress response, aka the fight or flight response. This causes a physiological reaction you would feel like anxiety symptoms. This is a natural mechanism that occurs the moment you remember the painful experience. These symptoms are caused by a rush of survival hormones. If you are someone who frequently thinks about how others have hurt you, you’re continually harming your system. It’s very hard on your body when you experience continued stressful situations and this can cause you to produce a lasting, low-level state of stress.

 

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As your stress level stays activated, it continues pumping stress hormones which causes you to have stressful experiences. As a consequence, it can cause symptoms, like:

  • insomnia
  • overeating
  • irritability & moodiness
  • alcohol or drug abuse
  • anxiety attacks and panic
  • episodes of sadness and depression
  • feeling constantly pressured, hassled
  • allergy reactions like asthma, eczema and hives
  • physical symptoms ~ chest pains, stomach aches, headaches

 

This is the truth. Every change, everything that doesn’t work out the way you thought it should, was an experience you had to have in order to direct you on your current path. Everything happens for a reason, and if we learn from the experience and then let the pain of it go, we can move forward with more clarity and appreciation for what we have now.

 

EVERYTIME I FELT BAD WAS REDIRECTED BETTER

So start making nice to yourself. Start appreciating your life and blessings now and only move forward. Stay current and vital by connecting with nature and watching how fresh and alive nature always stays.

STAY JUICY!

GOT SELF-ESTEEM? ~ STAY JUICY!

•January 2, 2016 • Leave a Comment

WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM ANYWAY AND WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT?

Having self-esteem means having confidence in your own worth and abilities; having self-respect, dignity, and faith in yourself. This has to come from within yourself, from a strong sense of liking who you are and feeling okay with all your experiences, even the difficult ones, for the lessons they have taught you.

 

Do you have pride in yourself and your accomplishments? Navigating life is a huge accomplishment that many don’t give themselves credit for. It doesn’t matter what your life looks like to anyone else. What matters is how you feel about your own choices. Can you feel good about yourself no matter what anyone else may say or think about you?

 

SELF-ESTEEM IS THE UNDERPINING OF ALL SUCCESS YOU HAVE IN LIFE

 

CHOICE EVERY DAY

 

Regardless of your history, your childhood, your school performance or any other factor in your life, you have a choice every day to believe in yourself and to do your best. We can’t change the past. We actually need to realize that whatever happened in our pasts, what we do about our lives today and every next day is totally up to us. Sure, things happen to us that seem out of our control like losing a job or ending a relationship. These are external factors. They should not have any effect on who you are inside; your intrinsic inner self. These are temporary situations that will change as your life continues on.

 

What happens to the CEO or other leaders when they retire or lose their titles? Often depression and a sense of great loss happens to people who allow an external factor like a job title or position define them. Power of a sorts may come with leadership roles but the true power lies within each of us. The greatest power is self-mastery and living life authentically. We all have the power to decide how we will react to what happens to us. Will we be the victim of our lives or victorious because of the hardships we’ve experienced and the persons we are as a result of those experiences?

 

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Relationships and job titles don’t define you. When you have a strong core of belief in yourself and your ability to recover and go on, nothing can stop you from succeeding. Too often we look for confirmation of our worthiness in someone else’s eyes. No one knows us as well as we can know ourselves. No one can love us any more than we love ourselves. When we decide to create our own inner happiness, we become more loveable to others. Happiness is a choice regardless of what’s going on because it’s a decision. Every day we have the option to look at our lives and situations with an attitude of gratitude for what we have, or we can choose to focus on what we don’t have.

 

Unfortunately we all fall prey to the socialization we receive from our culture and influences that makes us feel less than others based on superficial and materialistic factors like how we look and what we have. Just hang out at your local elementary school and watch the playground politics at work. Even those little guys are making decisions about friendships and acting in ways that mimic the same insecurities or beliefs you hold. It’s time to rethink and rebel.   Don’t kick yourself just because you’re stuck in where you’ve been socially indoctrinated to be. Rethink your options and choose to be free of the oppressive influence of other’s opinions of you or anyone/anything. You have the right to be uniquely and authentically you. Get out there and amaze yourself at how wonderful you are when you can live from a place of gratitude and humility for your life.   You will make mistakes but so what? If you never try you can bet you’ll never get anywhere. Be scared and try anyway. Life is a great adventure. Find out for yourself.

 

Always believe in yourself

 

Self-esteem comes from an inner decision to accept ourselves, and to be kind and gentle with ourselves. If you find yourself being critical of others, it’s directly a clue that you are self-critical. When you accept yourself, you don’t care what anyone else chooses because you know how freeing it is to be okay with your life and your choices.

Lose the shackles of self-judgment and self-criticism and realize you are exactly as you are supposed to be and loveable because you are you. Only you hold the power to unchain yourself from your perceived limitations and to embrace your wonderful uniqueness. I say “Power to the People” to recognize their own beauty and holiness.

Love yourself and everyone else and you will overflow with self-esteem ~ STAY JUICY!

 

 

WHAT AN ADVENTURE! ~ STAY JUICY!

•December 14, 2015 • 2 Comments

Driving home north over the Grapevine (the interstate 5 freeway) last night, the rain relentlessly poured down, making vision difficult in the moonless night. Suddenly, traffic halted and remained stopped for two solid hours. Eventually I realized we were being removed from the freeway and redirected to the closest off ramp. There were hundreds of cars already parked lining the lanes paralleling the freeway and adjacent roads. That two-hour wait was how long it took to slowly allow four lanes of traffic to exit one vehicle at a time.

you can control your reactions

 

After exiting the freeway, all I could do was drive down an unlit street and park my car with everyone else’s. A truck pulled up behind me and parked. As the gentleman opened his door and got out, I asked him if he knew what the trouble was. Mud slides of course! It was 39 degrees and all we could do was huddle in our vehicles and hope the emergency machinery would appear soon to remove the mud. Luckily the rain had stopped.

 

Although I used to be the CEO of the Kern American Red Cross and I knew what one was supposed to carry in their cars in case of emergencies, I had recently emptied my trunk in order to transport a large amount of stuff, and had not replaced my storage box of essentials. Luckily, my daughter had just bought me a pair of fingerless mittens from Knott’s Berry Farm on sale from their Mystery Store, left over from Halloween Fright Night, and given me a wonderfully soft black scarf. Putting them on, I was appreciative of having some items to stave off the chilling cold. Looking around, I appreciated the tall trees lining the road and the fact that there was someplace in nature to be while awaiting the outcome of the situation.

 

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I had not eaten since lunch and a headache was starting to pound away. Again, luckily I had a bottle of water, Advil and a bag of kettle corn my daughter had sent me home with. As I munched on the kettle corn in semi-comfort, I wondered how many of the other stranded passengers had the luxuries I was enjoying.

 

After only two hours, the roadway was cleared and we all got to continue our trips onward. Even though people were cold and extremely late for where ever they were originally headed, at nearly midnight, they cooperated gracefully to allow the competing lines of traffic to merge onto the freeway, one car from each line in an amazing show of humanity and generosity of spirit.

 

Had we been there many hours longer, other essentials would have been necessary in order to comfortably survive the night. So even though you will likely never find yourself stranded in your car in the cold of a dark night, there are a few essentials that would be helpful to have in your car in case you do.

 

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Always carry water with you. If you can place a Tupperware or related kind of container in the truck filled with essentials, you’ll be ahead of the game. Some kind of energy bars are a good idea and you can change them out before the date expires. A blanket is critical in cold weather to hold in your body heat. Have a sweatshirt with a hoodie or anything to cover your head is critical too as we lose 80% of our body heat through our heads. Nature will call if you’re stranded long enough so carry toilet paper with you. A flashlight and a battery operated radio are helpful and make sure your cell phone is charged so you can notify the people who are expecting you at the other end of your journey. Naturally a first aid kit is helpful at all times.

 

As we entered the freeway and began really moving, I was so very grateful for having had the experience. It was an adventure that had been a safe one and was yet another example of how fortunate we are to live in a country that has the infrastructure to send out emergency vehicles immediately to help in situations like this.

 

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The freedom of being able to drive home safely and eventually climb into my warm bed made me even more grateful for the luxuries of my life. How much do we take these things for granted? You can bet I am more grateful than ever before. So many people are homeless in weather even colder than 39 degrees, without food, water or blankets. Be grateful for what you have.

 

Life is sweet! ~ STAY JUICY!

 

 

IT’S TIME TO QUIT~ STAY JUICY!

•June 15, 2015 • Leave a Comment

ARE YOU SPENDING TIME AND ENERGY AGONIZING OVER HOW OTHERS HAVE HURT YOU?

In life, you get back what you put into it. When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life. Every act you make either helps or hinders you, whether you realize this or not. The unkind ones will always bring unkindness to you. Learning this truth is one of the most important lessons in life. When you allow past harms to make you untrusting and closed off, you are also closing yourself off to the possibilities of great happiness.

 

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Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even when you think they don’t deserve this. Do this because you are a nice person. What you put out always comes back to you. Rudeness and unkindness from others will find its way back to them; you can bet on that.

 

Choose to spend time with people whom you are glad to know, people you admire, and who love and respect you. Choose people who make your day better because they have a positive outlook and want to share it with you.  Don’t waste your time with negative people.  Life is too short to spend time with folks who bring you down and erode your happiness and peace of mind.

 

Be a positive person for yourself and those around you. You never know how much your smile can change someone’s day. Instead of worrying, have the orientation of patience, faith and positivity. Things may seem precarious right now but all positive actions are rewarded. You may not see immediate results but the more you choose peace of mind and faith instead of worrying, the more peace you will find.

 

HAVE FAITH LISTEN TO YOUR HEART

 

Listening to your head without first engaging your heart will often remind you of all the things that can go wrong for you. Listening to your heart will offer alternative thoughts on every situation and give you a better understanding of how to navigate your problems. If others have caused you pain, listen with your heart the next time someone comes into your life. You will be able to prevent future pain by choosing the people your heart agrees are good for you. This means that judging by external appearances or by any other reason than what’s good for you can lead to pain. If this hasn’t worked for you in the past,  (looks are only what’s on the outside; it’s what’s inside that counts) learn this lesson now.

 

happiness can only come when you're on the rt path

 

Sometimes it’s hard to know what the right path is for you. Since we can’t see the future, if we live our lives with intentions of causing others no harm, with generosity of spirit and kindness, we will be building futures of happiness for ourselves. This doesn’t mean we won’t face challenging times. Life is about lessons we experience through our interactions and relationships. These lessons can be painful for sure, but the goal is to learn the message of the lesson the first time so it doesn’t have to show up again.

 

 

EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS PERFECT

 

This can be one of the hardest concepts to accept, yet everything works out the way it is intended to work. You may need many things to happen first before you can accept what you believe you want. If the perfect person for you steps into your life too early, you won’t recognize them and will have lost that opportunity. If you think you want a particular resolution or outcome, but you aren’t ready for that which you desire, many experiences may need to be had in order to prepare you for this outcome.

 

If  living life the way you have been doing isn’t working out, change the way you view life. Nothing external to you can change until you change. It’s time to quit feeling like a Victim. When you spend time feeling like life and people have victimized you, you are lowering your vibration so much, it’s difficult for you to attract higher vibrational people and experiences to you. Positive people like to be around others whom they can harmonize with. Deciding to leave past pain in the past and opening yourself to new adventures and experiences with more positive people will bring greater ease and happiness into your life.

 

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Choose to see your life as an adventure, waking up each day with a sense of gratitude for another opportunity to live and learn is the way to go. Gratitude for everything is one of the easiest ways to find yourself happy and content. So, time to quit focusing on what’s wrong and instead, focus on all the things that you can be grateful for. This will bring into your life more happiness and gratitude for what is working.

And remember that staying young, vital and juicy is a matter of letting go of the thoughts and events that weigh you down and cause you to dry up. Life is happening right now in this minute and in each next minute; choose to be engaged in the wonders of life. Maintaining more positive thoughts and actions will keep you young and vibrant. ~ STAY JUICY!

HOW TO TRANSCEND YOUR PROBLEMS ~ STAY JUICY!

•May 17, 2015 • 2 Comments

 

IN THE BEGINNING  WAS THE WORD, AND THE WORD WAS WITH GOD AND THE WORD WAS GOD.

 

This message from John 1:1 in the New Testament tells us that the Word is a spiritual energy and that energy is God. From that God Energy comes all things that have ever existed and are yet to be created, eternally . Every bird that has ever flown, every rock and tree, every person different from you, and you, yourself, are all expressions of this God Energy. If everyone and everything is made of God Energy, then everything and everyone is sacred. When we act disrespectfully to nature or to another person, we are distorting the energy of God through our words or actions.

 

Every word we speak has a vibrational energetic coding that is either high, because our intention is loving, or low, because we just cursed out someone who almost blindsided us. Our utterances either add loving energy or its opposite into the collective God Energy in which we are all connected. All positive spoken words help you and everyone you love and care about. Adding to the negative does the opposite to you and yours. When you understand this, you choose to have intentions of mercy and happiness to all, including yours. The more people who do this, the sooner we will get to that state of Grace.

 

 

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We are constantly given another chance to redeem our bad behavior. Life gives us every next day to do it differently, to make kinder choices, to show more compassion. No matter what mistakes you’ve made and choices you regret, every next day you awake gives you another chance to change the trajectory of your life. Are you making choices that feed your soul, help others and make you feel proud of yourself ? You can only do this if every choice you make is life affirming; meaning with an attitude and intention of becoming a true reflection of the God Energy you are made of and promoting healing in everyone’s path you cross.

 

 

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There is always only now, this day, this minute and then the next. Living each day with honor and gratitude, respecting all, leads to a happier, more ease-filled life. It doesn’t take long to see the difference in your life as soon as you smile more, have faith and hope of God’s perfect intentions for you. His Plan is the best for us. We are afraid to trust this so we make choices and take actions out of fear.

 

Every day we open our eyes to a new morning, we are blessed beyond measure because we get to live out another day. Another day of choices and opportunity to choose happiness for ourselves and others is so valuable. Yet it takes looking into the mirror squarely and owning yourself, warts and all. No one is imperfect since we are all living expressions of the Word, God’s Love for us. Since you are perfect exactly as you are in this moment, you will find it easier to accept and love yourself the more you can look in the mirror. Choosing integrity, transparency and self-love makes living life easier.

 

 

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When you love yourself, you cease judging others and finding fault because you know that only God understands the big picture and that it’s your job to help other people see the divine Godly Energy they are made of so they can also learn to love themselves. This is the answer to all problems on the planet. Love thy brother as you love yourself only works if you love yourself first.

 

Love yourself unconditionally. Know, as Louse Hays says in her new book Life Loves You that you are loveable. Let life love you today and every next day and ~ STAY JUICY!

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE ~ STAY JUICY!

•May 4, 2015 • Leave a Comment

This is a post from three years ago that is always so relevant, I thought I’d repost it.

Lorraine E. Castro, LMFT

NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

Thoreau said “There must be the generating force of love behind every effort destined to be successful.”

This couldn’t be truer. Every effort you make that has the intention of loving service to others will generate success for you. What have you accomplished in your life that has satisfied you most and filled your soul? If you think about the events and accomplishments you are most proud of, they were probably motivated by love. This could have been the love of a sport, a hobby, a job, anything. You could have put that extra effort into something that made your parents proud when you were younger. As an adult, the loving effort you put into relationships has gained you good friends and rewarding experiences. The essence of love lies beneath every successful action. Love is a strong motivator.

What you might consider is that the greatest of this love must be for yourself. If that…

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FEELING CRAZY LATELY? ~ STAY JUICY!

•March 26, 2015 • Leave a Comment

HELP,  I FEEL LIKE I’M FALLING APART!

Not really, but some days lately have felt very odd. Are there times you feel crazy and challenged simply getting through the day? Some mornings I wake up and know it’s going to be a strange one from the minute I get out of bed. You know that weird feeling of being out of synch with yourself, like you’re in a time warp or your brain synapses aren’t firing right?  Come on, you know you’ve been wondering what’s going on.

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Have no fear, you’re not going crazy. You are simply at the mercy of unseen factors that affect us all, like the fact that Mercury is retrograde, whatever that might mean to you. The planet is spinning faster and time has decided to speed up and send us whirling into a different way of being. We must accept this, whether we understand the particulars or not. It’s Not 1994 Anymore! Back then if someone told you about some of the inventions we have right now, they would have sounded like wild ideas. And that was only 11 years ago! There were no smartphones, no iPads, no flat-screen or 3D TVs,  and, imagine this, no Google, no Netflix, no Dropbox.

CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT IN LIFE

If you aren’t someone who follows astrological changes or even believes in them, no worries. They will continue to happen and affect you anyway. For instance, the recent supermoon total solar eclipse on the Spring Equinox probably stirred up some powerful emotions in your personal life. As 2015 turns from winter to spring, we enter a time when light equals darkness / balance.  We’re headed for many more of these events in the sky that unquestionably affect our lives. Watch the total lunar eclipse on April 4th for something profound. Metaphysically, all of these rare astrological events colliding at once is like a wave stripping away what no longer serves us and sending us on a new journey. You don’t have to know this, but it would help you make sense of the changes you are going through. Otherwise, you might be tempted to look for reasons around you for these unsettling feelings. It’s not about your job, although you may hate it anyway. It’s not about your relationships. If you are alive on the planet right now, just as in any other time in history, life is changing.

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There is so much more than what we can perceive in the world around us. Not too many years from now, we will teach children about all the other factors besides the traditional materials they will need to know as they grow up. But no matter what we teach, we can never move away from the basic principles of operating as a human being. We have been living in our egos for way too long. Each of us views our own life as the important one, with everyone else just collaterally existing in Our world. You know this is true. With so many millions of us on the planet conceptualizing this way, it’s no wonder we don’t feel responsible for other people and the planet as a whole. Yet we are all linked, all connected. If we could all live from our hearts, we would never judge others for their choices. Because someone is a different race, religion, identified gender or different in any way, simply means that their soul is manifesting in a manner different than yours. There is no reason to hate, war against or condemn anyone who looks, thinks or identifies in a way that seems foreign or strange to you.

Your heart listened to would only advise compassion, tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness and unity. Your ego will always make you suspect anything that doesn’t fit within the parameters of what you believe is acceptable.  How will we ever get to a united world that understands our natural resources are limited and we must find ways to share with all?

best medicine is love

Find love in your heart for everyone. The more you live out of your ego, the unhappier your life will become. We are each responsible for our thoughts and actions because each of these affect the collective unconscious, that unseen energy we all tap into. It’s why people all over the globe can dream similar dreams, have fairytales with similar archetypal players. Every negative thought increases the collective negativity and each thought of love and unity adds to the positive. Let’s work on pushing the positive in order to change the global consciousness.

So the next time you feel like you’re experiencing a weird, difficult or trying day, don’t look for causes around you. Look within and know the elements are pushing us to evolve as souls. Make a practice of finding the good in everyone and imagine how wonderful life would be if we could all just get along.

And as always, ~ STAY JUICY!